Still, it is apparent that plenty of people choose an appropriate topic for their meetings, they get the right people in the room, and manage the time, only to find that their meetings remain mired in mediocrity. (What is mediocrity? Answer: poor results as people interrupt each other, spend time on PDA's and cell phones, host side conversations, and take the dialogue on whimsical tangents.)
You can change that in the next meeting you're in. Consider the possibility that leading an effective meeting - one where people WANT to attend and results are stellar - is easier than most people imagine it to me.
It comes down to one thing: focus. Achieving this is the most important job in every meeting. When you guide focus, you influence attitude and ideas. When you influence those two things, you create behaviors and results. It's a powerful formula…and it all comes down to guiding focus.
How effective are you right now at doing this? The vast majority of people try to achieve this by telling people what to think, do or say. Their egos get in the way, and the sabotage their own best efforts.
You can do it better. And here's how: ask questions. Not just any questions, but Forward Focus Questions that stimulate thinking, solutions, productivity; questions that move people and relationships forward; questions that deliver results.
Here's a four-step guide to participating in exceptional meetings. (Note: you don't have to run a meeting to use this strategy.)
- Check your ego. Do you want to say something because it will add value or because you simply want to hear yourself say it?
- Ask Forward Focus Questions. These are open-ended and move people, relationships, and results forward.
- Check your talking/listening ratio. People often think their ideas are more important than they really are. Listening is the tool that quite often delivers the hidden solution.
- Ask questions that allow others to demonstrate their strengths and wisdom. You're on the same team - poor leaders use questions to incriminate and corner others, rather than using questions as a powerful tool to deliver better results.
Questions have proven effective at creating focus in every conversation and meeting you have.